When working with couples there is a common trend. It is hard for two unhealthy individuals to enjoy a healthy relationship. On the flip side, two individuals that are working to become healthier will enjoy a healthier relationship. this is why we encourage and promote individual self care.
We often recommend that couples spend considerable time on individual growth. When individuals grow individually it has an immediate positive impact on the relationship. This is so powerful and so important. Couples that consistently grow together are better equipped to manage and thrive during difficult seasons. Change and challenges will happen. The more we grow individually the more the relationship will grow as well.
Often times in marriage counseling, one or both spouses will begin to use victim type language. But in any relationship we all make choices. Some choices we are proud of. They inspire us and our spouse, but other choices we would likely do differently. But the reality is today is a new day. And today we can take ownership of the choices we make and better realize the impact they have on our marriage.
Fun video where our oldest son asks us a serious of questions. We have our eyes closed and point at who we think is the answer to the questions. Try it yourself and share your answers on social media.
In marriage it is important to have fun. That is why we share these types of ideas. Life can get busy and it is easy for our marriage to turn from a romantic friendship into a business partnership. A business where we talk about household responsibilities, paying bills, making dinner, cleaning the house etc. Date nights, going dancing, and playing games, a silly social media challenges can all be opportunities to laugh, connect, and keep the romantic flame in our marriage burning.
The Holidays is a magical time of year. Often times filled with family, parties, meals, and gifts. But for many people the holidays can also be a difficult time. For me, these various moods can swing back and forth multiple times in the same day. The holidays are enjoyed with the family that I have, but they also remind me of my family members that have already passed away. This combination of emotions makes me aware that while the holidays are filled with celebrations, it is important that we take moments for personal reflection, and also that we check in on the people around us and see how they are doing.
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